Growing Alongside Your Children 

by | Jul 3, 2024 | Family

Maintaining a healthy relationship with your children is one of the most important aspects of parenthood, and one that will be important long after they’ve left the house. Your relationship will change over the course of your life, and that’s completely normal and necessary for the growth of your family.  

Think about it this way: You wouldn’t treat a 3-year-old the same way you would treat a 30-year-old. Your kids will always be your kids, but by treating them accordingly as they grow up, you’ll be setting them up for success. How can you grow alongside your kids instead of watching them from the sidelines? Let’s take a look. 

Keep communication at the forefront. 

Having clear and positive communication is the most important aspect of you and your child’s relationship during every stage of their life. Not only will it be good for their developmental growth, but it will also help strengthen your own personal relationship together. Studies show that this isn’t always the easiest thing in the world, however, because most parents say they can’t even hold a 10-minute conversation with their own kids. Good communication is hard because there is no set formula for how to do it. You need to know what your child needs and when they need it, and that will always be changing. 

Your school-aged kids might need you to communicate boundaries and rules, so that they know how to follow authority without fearing it. Your adult children might just need advice on how to navigate the real world. The key is cultivating an open environment throughout their life where they continue to feel comfortable coming to you with those types of questions. 

Communication goes both ways. Make sure that when your child comes to you with a problem or concern, you’re actively listening to what they are telling you. If they know that you’re giving them your full time and effort during conversations, they may be more inclined to give it back in return. If you need to set aside specific times during the week where you come together and talk without the distractions of phones, television, or other screens, then do it! Get your family talking, and you’ll be bonding and growing together in the process. 

Know when to hold back. 

One of the hardest parts of parenthood is knowing when it’s time to let your kids go. When they’re small, it’s your job to keep them protected from the world, clothe them, feed them, and show them right from wrong. As they get older though, there are some lessons that they need to experience on their own in order to fully learn. While the teenage years are going to be especially touchy, once your kids become adults and go out on their own, it helps to let them know that you’ll be there for them whenever they need you. The odds are they will appreciate this in the long run. 

Studies show that 75% of young adults claim to have a better relationship with their parents now than they did when they were teenagers. During this time in their lives, a lot of parents can get caught up in the mindset of “I am losing my child,” when they should be looking at it as, “I am gaining an adult.” Give them their space, let them make mistakes, and be there to comfort them when they fail. 

Know that they will always be your kids. 

The life of your child is constantly changing, leading them down new avenues and toward plenty of different directions. You won’t always be able to control their lives or play the main role, but hopefully they’ll always let you be a part of it. Learning lessons and growing from the results is always better when you are doing it together. That’s what family is all about. 

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